Growing Up in a Dysfunctional Family
Before I get a bunch of mail from the people I grew up with about this, let me clarify an important point: My birth family was not dysfunctional. Mom and Dad loved each other and us; my siblings got along as well and at times better than most. So why the title of today’s blog?
Are You Willing to Be Wrong?
Over the course of this past week, we began a new mentoring mastermind group called Infinite Potential, Infinite Possibilities. One of the basic premises of the program comes from a quote by Arnold Patent I shared in The Inside-Out Revolution:
The Story of Me
The author/philosopher Ken Wilber talks about a core concept in his writings about spirituality he calls “the pre/trans fallacy”. In a very tight nutshell, what he is describing is our tendency to confuse the pre-personal “ignorant” innocence…
When Humanity and Divinity Collide
Since this is the very first blog post I am writing under the new header of "Caffeine for the Soul", I thought I'd share a bit about where this juxtaposition of the sacred and the profane that permeates my work first started to appear in my consciousness... In August...
The ‘X’ Factor in Predicting the Future
One of the things I love about the work that I do is that when we catch our first glimpse of the thought-created nature of our personal reality, the adventure has just begun. It's like spending your life stumbling around in a cave and then being handed a lantern....
A Whole New Way of Thinking About Mindfulness
Mindfulness, as defined by Wikipedia, is “the intentional, accepting and non-judgmental focus of one’s attention on the emotions, thoughts and sensations occurring in the present moment”. But for me, mindfulness can be understood at a couple of different levels. At...
Why Understanding leads to Meditation more often than Meditation leads to Understanding
I was watching a Syd Banks video once and he said something to the effect that “if you take a room full of meditators and a room full of people learning the principles, the room full of people learning the principles would “go higher”. I remember thinking that a)...
Owning Your Self
Normally, I write these weekly missives from a place of already knowing what I have to say without necessarily knowing how I'm going to say it. At some point during the week I have an insight; in the tip I share the insight and point as best I can to the place where...
Where Confidence Comes From
This weekend, I gave a talk on bringing out the best in yourself and others at The Best You exhibition in London. After the talk, one of the participants asked me if I had always been a confident speaker or if it was something which had developed over time. In...
The Secret of What Matters Most
Back in my early personal development days, I spent many hours with pen and journal in hand trying to create ‘values hierarchies’ – lists of things that mattered to me in the order that they mattered. My lists would vary from year to year, but would inevitably look...
Living an Invisible Life
Twenty years ago, I appeared on a television show in the UK called “The Big Breakfast”. My job was to hypnotize the host, Zoe Ball, into overcoming her fear of flying so that she could get into a small airplane with a 75 year old nun who was doing her first ever...
The Nothing at the Heart of Everything
I’m at that wonderfully strange stage of releasing a new book where I send it out to people the world and I admire and ask them to read it with an eye towards offering up a nice quote if they like what they’ve read. Here’s an excerpt from what Gay Hendricks, co-author...
The Art of Creating, part three – The Finish Line
When I used to work in the theater, I was always fascinated by what happened between the final dress rehearsal and opening night. With less than 24 hours to go, sets would be rebuilt, lighting cues changed, and at times even new lines…
The Art of Creating, part two – “And then a miracle happens…”
In part one of this series, I shared a bit about what I call “the big nothing” – the space within us where we connect most easily with the deeper, creative Mind which is the source of everything new which comes into being. (If you missed it, you can read it here.)...
The Art of Creating, Part One – The Big Nothing
One of the things I love about writing relatively short blog posts on a relatively regular basis is that I get to experience the whole of the creative process from start to finish. I begin each week with some kind of nothing (more on this in a bit), and by the time...